"Each single adolescent, no matter if boy or girl should become independent and cut the cord with the parents in a sociological sense. This is the moment when we should realize that we are adults and independent and that we do not need our parents to constantly protect and comfort us. It is a psychological process that takes a few years. Of course we need our parents to love and support us, but especially with the boys, they need to go through the transformation into a male adult without their mom but with the help of other men with strong, responsible and paternal morals".
Michael Gurian.

"The absence of his dad or another male parent person can affect his natural maturity.
Boys that experience such thing often start to psychologically separate themselves from their moms before, during or after puberty; they pressure her, treat her bad or even stop talking to her. But as they do not have any support from another male family member, relative or person whom they relate to closely that would help them achieve growing up they often see a substitute in their girlfriend. If your boyfriend is one of those boys, he will burden all the responsibility on you to show him how to separate from his mother. You become the person that he will turn to (without realizing it) in order to feel good about himself as a man".
Michael Gurian.

"Since you also start growing up, the situation with your boyfriend is very delicate. You become responsible for the image that a vulnerable boy has about himself without him being aware of it. He will not only expect from you to help him to feel good about himself but sometimes also sees you as if you were his mother and this could affect you a lot. This is a process called 'projection'".
Michael Gurian.

"Projection is like looking at a photograph of somebody but mentally seeing another person on it. For separating from the authority of your father you project the image onto your boyfriend without realizing it".
Michael Gurian.