If my girlfriend and I exchange intimate caresses but I am not sure if I love her, can we still have a sexual relationship?

If you are only interested in a sexual relationship and you do not really love her or you are not sure whether you love her or not, do not go any further than the intimate relationship you already have. This level becomes a natural borderline that, well controlled by both, permits a better understanding of each one's intimacies as well as feelings. If both want and agree to it as a natural result of a couple relationship where both receive and give caresses, they should now ask themselves if they really love each other.

The so called indirect sexual relationships to which intimate caresses count as well, are considered as something natural by psychologists, psychiatrists and sexologists. They contain a certain boundary that is the respect towards the partner, his/her values and beliefs. If both of you have already reached this stage it is because both of you accept and enjoy it.

If you both like to go further and have direct sexual contact, you should take the time to talk about it and to establish a list of possible risks for pregnancy, the consequences for both of you and whether you both are ready to confront yourselves with the responsibility that derive from the consequences.

Finally, nothing and nobody can hold you back from doing what you want to do. It is only you that determine your acts. As much as you ask for advice, it is you and your girlfriend that have to know whether to go on or stop in that decisive moment.

It is within this very freedom of decision you have in your intimate caresses where the responsibility you assume is best reflected.

Asked by an Chilean Boy