Why do I get excited so fast when I am with my girlfriend but for her it takes so much longer?

Excitement works different in women than in men. You get excited very fast, she doesn't. Women generally need some preparation, a previous stage or a so called foreplay.

Nervousness, anxiety or distrust provokes inhibition. Ask yourself if you get sexually excited when, for instance, you play soccer or riding your bike or do any other kind of exercise that demands effort. Obviously the answer is no. You don't get excited. What is the reason for that? It is because your body is prepared for a different function.

There is no sexual excitement if the conditions aren't adequate for this human nature and it depends a lot on the environmental, organic and psychological situation.

The excitement as a concept related to human sexuality is a previous stage that, from the beginning of stimulating the endocrine system, predisposes the human body to procreate.

Before you ask yourself how you can achieve that your girlfriend gets excited faster, reflect if you really do not only seek your satisfaction.

If you are a couple and you love her, you should first establish how you satisfy her sentimentally. As a consequence of sincere affection and love, the physical response will come, there I have no doubt. Generally women respond more easily under affectionate stimulation.

But there are two more aspects to this.

You need to consider, in case she is younger than you, if she has the physical development as an adolescent in order to be able to reach the stage of sexual excitement. There could be a delay in her development and, as a consequence, a minimal sexual stimulation.

You also need to think about if you are really the right person for her to experience such thing. Perhaps you are simply a close friend to her with whom she experiences certain levels of intimacy but that you don't cause her more excitement than that.

Asked by a boy from Argentina