After I have told my boyfriend that I have cheated on him, he tells me that he has done the same: How should I react?

The relationships during adolescence are legitimate, valuable and important but the only mutual obligations are respect, tolerance and the acceptance that there are NO RULES. The formality of a teen relationship is the NON FORMALITY.

You told me that you are both 18 years old. Don't forget that your maturity has almost come to an end and that of your boyfriend as well. Therefore reflect a little your situation. Remember that you have confessed that you have been with another person. Even though your confession shows your sincerity, recall that he is a different person and that his reactions are in the process of development and telling you that he has been with another girl as well could be a way of showing you that he is just as capable to do what you have done.

But if you love him - and at this age there is more security about the feelings than at a younger age - and he loves you, talk about it without making it grotesque. Explain it to him. Seek nearness, harmony. You are already even, to say it that way. But if you think it is a waste of time, let the situation pass and overcome it with maturity.

I tell you again that the one and only commitment you both have at this stage of your lives is to accept each other. And only if you both see and determine it that way, there is a chance that you acquire the formality of a commitment as adults.

For now, enjoy your youth, have fun and if he doesn't accept you, finish and seek for another person to have a relationship with.

Asked by a girl from Peru