There is a girl at my school I like. One day she was talking to her friend telling her that they would stay singles because nobody paid attention to them. When I heard that I told her that I like her. She got mad. A week later she started to talk to me again and days later I dared to ask her if she liked to be my girlfriend but she told me no. What can I do? Should I ask her a second time?

For the information you have given me, it seems like you have been very hasty with things. As you found out that she was single you should have created the conditions in order to ask her to be your girlfriend. But I think you rushed into it without thinking which reactions this confession would bring.

Think about the problems that could affect her; what type of personality she is, if she is nice and affectionate to everybody it could mean that in a particular circumstance, saying that towards an individual, she isn't quite that way. You should find out about her situation at home, whether she lives in a stable nucleus or whether her parents are separated what could explain her defensive reaction.

The teen love or love during adolescence isn't recognized as a formal category of relationship in our society. But they constitute a reality and are due to an unwritten code that all the young people are ought to respect.

This unwritten code indicates that you should first flirt with a girl that you like. This is a TACTIC OF APPROACH in order to establish a first link or contact that will help you to find out whether you are the person she would like to have as a boyfriend.

This stage of APPROACH can extend through the time, depending on the nearness you share with that girl. That means if you see her every day, it might require less time than if you only saw her a couple days of the week and if you only see her occasionally, it might even take longer.

In your case, since it is your classmate, you see her every day and thus you have the chance to start all over again.

The NO she told you could be a definite no or simply an action telling you to start approaching her. The way you should keep going is approaching her in different manners. For instance ask her something you don't know or didn't understand in class. Or ask her simply how things go for her or tell her in a very delicate way that she dressed very nicely TODAY or THIS MORNING.

I recommend you to start all over again because I think the NO she gave you wasn't a definite NO and that you have a second chance.

If you notice that she doesn't pay any attention to you, I recommend you to withdraw your proposal without turning it into a big deal. Search for another girl.

It might possibly hurt a little being rejected but remember that it is always better to know the truth than chasing the winds and drown in self pity and sadness for a long time because that would discourage you, be detrimental to your studies, to your friendships, your classmates and family. You have got all your life ahead to search for a girl to love and be loved by. Don't be afraid.

Asked by a boy from Nicaragua