I am at the point of telling a girl that I like her. She knows that I am in love with her but keeps flirting with other boys. Why does she do that and how and when should I confess my love to her?

She seeks for your attention through flirting with other boys. This is a very typical feminine behaviour to effectively generate a certain degree of jealousy in order to hasten a decision on who turns out to be the chosen one.

Jealousy is something very normal and according to a recent genetic investigation it is a human mechanism created by nature.

The adequate moment of declaring your love to her should be determined by nobody than you if you are ready to do so. I recommend you to do it in the nearest opportunity that is given to you. You could tell her that you would like to talk to her. She might ask you what you want to tell her and you could answer that it is something very personal and important.

This could be the first step from which could arise three reactions.

1.That she accepts to talk to you immediately. In this case you should be armed with tact and calmness and tell her straight: What I would like to tell you is that I like you a lot and I would like you to be my girlfriend. I ask you to tell me whether you accept or not.

Of course, the words you should choose according to how you feel most comfortable. I would just like to give you an idea.

If she tells you she will think about it, don't rush things. Ask her only when she will respond you question and nothing else. Then try to find an excuse and leave the situation behind. And the following minutes act as if nothing had occurred.

If in the moment of confessing your love to that girl, there were other girls around, pay attention to them. Ask them something and talk with them about any subject and pretend you have forgotten HER. She should notice that it surely is important to you and that it is nothing transcendent but that at last there are other girls around you.

If she tells you YES, behave like a gentleman. If you want, take her hand and tell her again that you really like her a lot and that you hope that you both will make a nice couple. The rest of the day, keep calm and spend it just the way you used to without being all too excited. Yes, one wish of your life has just realized but try to sleep well.

2.That she doesn?t accept to talk to you and postpones the situation. In that case, don't insist. Tell her "Alright", and nothing else. Not another word although inside you might be dying to talk but keep calm. Turn around and join your friends and stop paying attention to her so she would notice that you can still keep on going normally in your life.

In this case you should wait and analyse the situation with the maturity you have already shown to possess. And think that she probably just liked to flirt with you, but nothing more than that. Though, for the information you have given me, I don't think it will result that way. But still, it might happen. It happens quite often that the girls flirt with one than more boys in order to decide for a definite boyfriend.

In case she postponed the moment of accepting that you talk to her, ask her when that moment will be. If she says she will tell you later, let the next step be up to her. You simply wait. And the time waiting will give you the chance to observe if she shows interest in you.

3.That she tells you in a very contemptuous manner that she DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT NOTHING. It is less probable but could as well happen. In this case you respond the same contemptuous way, telling her: I AM SORRY, I THINK I DID A MISTAKE ASKING YOU.

Then, without saying another word, you turn around and join your friends, talk to them, have fun. And period. Now you can only wait for her reactions. YOU DO NOT HAVE ANOTHER CHOICE. She will give you the chance to express yourself if she changes her mind.

There can also be other variables but the most probable, according to the background you have provided me, are the ones I have mentioned above.

Asked by a boy from Spain