Love and Oral and Anal Sex

As a universal principle, oral sex is considered to be a valuable form of the sexual relationships by most specialists, as long as both accept and enjoy it.

But practising oral sex in a teen relationship like yours (although you are both at the point of entering adulthood) is questionable.

This is fundamentally because the teen relationship lacks consistency, is unstable and its lastingness is more than insecure. From that derives the lack of responsibility of the consequences of practising oral sex.

Nevertheless I will give you the answers since both of you do practise anal and oral sex.

Oral as well as anal sex do bring along health risks for both of you because the humid female and male genital zones and the ones close to the anus, are spots where there is a constant activity of microorganisms that are harmful.

Don't forget that these are the same zones where you urinate and defecate. Thus any type of infection that one of you could be carrying and that is released through urine or stool, remains at the internal walls of the urine duct or/and the humid genital zones and in the anal orifice. From there it can be transmitted to the mouth and it is possible that a chain of contagion is started, affecting also family and friends.

The hands - for the activity one does use them for throughout the day - can also carry germs and thus affect these humid zones and, as a consequence of oral and anal sex, start a chain of infection.

Just imagine the infection that can reach your family or friends because one of you has infected himself through using a public bathroom at the university.

The seminal and vaginal liquids do not have a significant connotation when having oral sex. The seminal liquid itself doesn't imply any risk. The risk lies in the ejaculation that can get to the mouth and other zones of the body of your girlfriend carrying infections for having passed through the urinal duct where it draws bacteria.

The same goes for the vaginal liquids. These are secretions produced by sexual stimulation and facilitate, as a lubricant, the penetration. But if these liquids carry any type of infection, the risk to get infected via the mouth is very high.

For example: The woman is a passive carrier of some fungus that is found in public and private bathrooms or in swimming pools. Nevertheless, the same fungus that normally don't cause any trouble for the woman, do so for men and can be very acute and have serious consequences. If the partner doesn't instantly see the doctor and receives proper treatment, the chain of infection doesn't break and can affect third persons like mates, friends and family.

As a conclusion, if somebody practises oral sex, it should be done in absolute responsible intimacy, saying that both need to inform each other whether they are healthy or have had any problems. It is important that both keep the best hygiene possible and don't have intimate relationships with other persons than the partner. This is almost only achieved within a married couple or after living together in a stable manner after a decision as two adults.

Regarding the second part, yes, anal sex is a fact in a heterosexual relationship though it is more common for homosexual couples.

As for homosexuality, when men get in sexual contact with other men, the risks of infection is twice as high when practising mutual penetrations within this physical liaison.

Women that have sex with women aren?t at such a high risk, although they are not exempt from it. Although their physical anal contact is "passive", it can happen through simple rubbing or caressing or via other objects that are used for increasing sexual excitement.

But if a homosexual couple practises oral sex, the risk of getting infected is as high as for a heterosexual couple.

Anal sex isn't recommendable at all because anatomically the anus isn't made for such act even though it can achieve a certain degree of natural expansion and the areas around the anus of men and women are sensitive and can contribute to sexual excitement.

The anus doesn't dispose of a mechanism of lubrication and this leads to a painful act, for men as well as for women. The lubricants serve as a palliative but they won't stop the pain when penetration takes place.

Besides, anal sex implies serious health risks because a previous cleaning of the anal duct isn't possible. This means that there is a definite infection of faeces that, when having oral sex later on, could cause serious health problems like typhoid.

Another thing is that the anal wounds in women after having had anal sex, or in men of homosexual couples, heal slowly because of the constant bowel movement and can often result in evil ulcerations.

Finally, AIDS has its best ally in anal sex as well as other infectious diseases through wounds and ulcerations.

I hope I made clear that the decision to wait until marriage to have direct sexual contact shouldn't instantly lead you to an indiscriminating sexual exploration where not only your health it as risk but also your psyche.

Finally I want to show you that anal and oral sex do carry the risk of getting pregnant.

When having anal sex, sperm may run down from the anus reaching the humid female zones and from there the vagina.

Although they contain lubricants, condoms can easily break for the strong tension they are exposed to during penetration.

Practising oral sex there is a minor risk of getting pregnant but there is because the sperm that is released through ejaculation may remain latent in the seminal liquid and reach the pelvic zone of the woman.

If you use a condom during oral sex, the chance of getting pregnant is very low as long as it doesn't break after ejaculation or during various movements of the couple.