I am 14 years old. Me and my current boyfriend get a long relatively well but I keep remembering my ex boyfriend. I have thought about breaking up with my current one because my ex boyfriend told me that he still loves me. I am very confused. What can I do?

I understand your situation and it is absolutely normal for your age. It forms part of the exploration we do during our teen years. Sometimes we are not sure if we love that someone we are with right now or if we still love someone we broke up with.

You said you get a long "relatively" well with your current boyfriend. This means that you agree in some aspects and in others you don't. It also means that you are not sure if you love him causing you to compare him with your ex boyfriend.

I think that the experience with your ex boyfriend has marked you in some way. Ask yourself what difference there is between your current and your ex boyfriend and which are, objectively, the strong points of each one.

For example: Which one of the two has expressed his love in a better way? Which one of them has been more affectionate, loving, caring and attentive with you? Which one has shown more interest in your problems and has been more worried about your well being? Which one has been more responsible and respectful with you? With whom have you felt more secure? Which one has made you feel more woman? To whom do you feel more attached and who can you better share your current life with? In whom do you trust more? With which one have you had more intimacy?

Evaluate your answers and according to them, make a decision. Remember that you do not have any personal or social commitment towards your current boyfriend. You can just decide as you want. It could be that you feel that your current boyfriend loves you and thus inhibits you to look for a second chance with your ex boyfriend.

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