In this section you find the most relevant and universal questions asked by young people from America and Spain.

Between June, the time the original Spanish Portal Pololeos.com enters the World Wide Web, and December of 2001, more than a thousand of young people from Latin-American Nations, the United States, Canada and Spain have sent me questions. Each one I responded personally. In various cases there has been a very valuable interaction enriching the vision of the youth I have and it has shown me empirically that helping the young people facing this important stage of their life is not only necessary but essential.

The following questions were selected according their originality, relevance and universality. The criterion of the answers is also universal.

• If my girlfriend and I exchange intimate caresses but I am not sure if I love her, can we still have a sexual relationship?
• When my girlfriend has her period can we have sexual contact without risking pregnancy?
• When we are at some party and my girlfriend pays more attention to other people than to me, how should I interpret it?
• Why do I get excited so fast when I am with my girlfriend but for her it takes so much longer?
• If my girlfriend and I exchange intimate caresses or rub our naked bodies on each other without performing the sexual act: Is there a risk of pregnancy?
• I have been already sexually active though with some difficulty because my penis is curved, what shall I do?
• If I like a girl but she doesn't pay any attention to me, what can I do?
• After I have told my boyfriend that I have cheated on him, he tells me that he has done the same: How should I react?
• I am 14 years old and I like a girl that is one year younger than me but she will leave this school at the end of the term. What do I do if I love this girl so much and she is the first one I have this kind of feeling for?
• When I was 13 years old I had a 16 year old boyfriend. It was a very instable relationship and we had quarrelled a lot. We broke up and I didn't see him again until we met again via the internet. We started communicating more frequently and recalling the past years and we both noticed that we still have feelings for each other. What can I do at the age of 17 with him being far away from me not knowing if we will be able to meet?
• A girl I like a lot has given me signs that tell she would like to start a relationship with me: How do I confess my love to her?
• I am 18 years old, daughter of divorced parents and have a boyfriend who is 21. He was a friend of mine for one and a half years. Then we have started to be a couple and after 5 weeks of dating we had sex for the first time. I agreed to it without being pressured. He, already economically independent, has a bad reputation regarding girls that has also been confirmed by my father who knows him. I love him a lot but fear that I am only another adventure for him. How should I behave myself towards him?
• There is a girl at my school I like. One day she was talking to her friend telling her that they would stay singles because nobody paid attention to them. When I heard that I told her that I like her. She got mad. A week later she started to talk to me again and days later I dared to ask her if she liked to be my girlfriend but she told me no. What can I do? Should I ask her a second time?
• I am at the point of telling a girl that I like her. She knows that I am in love with her but keeps flirting with other boys. Why does she do that and how and when should I confess my love to her?
• My boyfriend is 20 years old and I am 21. We have been together more than a year now. I am totally in love with him and he tells me the same. I changed a lot since we have been a couple. I don't meet my friends a lot neither do I talk to a lot of people because I get along so well with my boyfriend. And we did have our first sexual contact. I was very happy. So was he. My mom is very fond of him though she told me that he is together with me for money reasons. She also told me that he had some kind of relationship with a 29 year old woman. His mom treats me in a "very special way". Give me some advice whether this relationship is good for me or not. Another thing is that I am not quite sure whether I am pregnant or not.
• I am 15 years old and feel that the love for my girlfriend is dying but at the same time I am afraid of being out of love and not being able to fall in love again. What can I do?
• I am 17 years old and have occasionally dated a man who is 30 years old. The last time we saw each other we got very excited and rubbed each others genitals. I am not sure whether that could lead to major complications (pregnancy). I actually don't really want to be with him and have tried to tell him but he doesn't understand. I fear that things are getting out of control. Please give me some advice.
• I am 16 years old and have a girlfriend for 9 months now. Recently she told me that her uncle had tried to abuse her sexually three years ago. We have already talked about marriage and we have promised each other to keep (always and as long as love reigns) our relationship another six years. What do you think about our relationship? Do you think the attempt of her uncle to abuse her could have left any trauma, and if so, in what way might it affect our relationship in the future?
• Thank you for responding me. My girlfriend and I have read your answer. She told me that her uncle had really only intended to abuse her but she screamed and her sister came in. His uncle was drunk and her parents weren't at home at that moment. And because nobody was testimony of what had happened, nobody believed her. Some time later, her uncle stopped by her house again. He got down on his knees and begged her for forgiveness. She was thirteen years old and what had happened is that she had run into his room without knocking his door. Now she has asked me if she should apologize for that but I don't know what to answer her.
• My girlfriend is 17 years old, I am 18. She is incapable of saying "I love you" and I don't know whether it is for her pride or for fear and I just don't know why she doesn't love me. On the other hand her actions and behaviour show me the opposite. What does it mean that she doesn't express herself like I would so much like to hear?
• I am 19 years old and my partner is 29. He told me that he separated from his wife four years ago and that he is father of two girls. He has also told me that he would like to rebuild his life with me but before that he would have to get the divorce. He works in the city where I live but his wife resides in a different one. He visits her frequently and explains that he does it for his daughters about which he cares and worries a lot. How should I behave? Are his constant worries about his daughters or his wife?
• I am 20 and my girlfriend is 19 years old. We are studying at the same university. We decided not to have sex until we have achieved our professional goals and are married. But we do practise indirect sex like oral and anal sex. Our questions are: Are there any risks for us having sexual contact this way? Is it possible to get infected? Do the seminal and vaginal liquids have any connotations? What can we do to avoid the pain besides using a lubricant when having anal sex? Is there a risk of getting pregnant?
• I am 15 years old and masturbate constantly. Which consequences could it have? Is it true that permanent masturbation causes early ejaculation in the future?
• I am 14 years old. Me and my current boyfriend get a long relatively well but I keep remembering my ex boyfriend. I have thought about breaking up with my current one because my ex boyfriend told me that he still loves me. I am very confused. What can I do?
• If I am 16 years old and have had wet dreams only a few times, is that good or bad?
• I am 18 years old and for a couple of months now there keep appearing pimples on my penis that are slowly spreading especially now, for the heat of the summer. But neither do they hurt nor do they itch. They are reddish. Could it be a venereal disease?